|Community Society||Western Society|
|People live with close relatives in one compound||People live in nuclear or one-parent families|
|Others are classified as "outsiders" (kharejee) or "insiders" (dakhelee)||Others are classified as individuals|
|Family provides protection in exchange for lifelong loyalty (to Islam, the Afghan way)||Children are supposed to take care of themselves as soon as possible|
|Strong family ties, with frequent contact||Weak family ties, rare contacts|
|Fewer divorces (1-4 wives, divorce almost impossible for women||Many more divorces|
|Children learn to think in terms of what their parents think, "we."||Children learn to think in terms of "I"|
|Non family, unrelated persons can be welcomed into the family to a certain extent (by marriage), but there are limitations||Family vs. nonfamily distinction is irrelevant|
|Care for the aged, the Aged are highly respected||Aged relatives care for themselves and have less respect|
|A marriage without sons is not complete, no matter how many daughters a woman has||Choosing not to have children in a marriage is socially acceptable|
|Business persons live with family - this is socially acceptable||Business persons live separately|
|Nobody is ever alone, ever.||Privacy is normal|
|Opinions predetermined by the elder married men in the family||Personal opinions are expected|
|Avoid all direct confrontation, lie if necessary to avoid giving bad news||Speaking one's mind is a characteristic of an honest person|
|Family relationships can be oppressive||Lasting friendships are difficult to achieve|
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